Bullying is a slow and painful death. Probably, someone you know right now is suffering in silence. Bullies and leaders - these are two things we choose to be. Why is this important to me? For 20 years, I was a victim of workplace bullying and harassment as a female officer in the RCMP. Having survived, I wanted to help other people not suffer in silence. I want to share the tools I created to survive because remaining silent, I become part of the problem. My first attachment, I dare to speak up against two officers who thought it was funny to refer to me as "beaver" and other humiliating names regarding my body parts, female body parts, in the office, in public, and on the radio so other detachments could hear. The first thing I did was remember what my parents said, "When kids are teasing you, just ignore it and they'll stop, and it'll go away." Well, it didn't. I tried that, and sadly, eventually, people in the community were referring to me with those humiliating names. The second strategy was the direct approach. I went to each one and asked them to please stop calling me these names. They laughed, it continued, and doing that was terrifying because one of them was my direct supervisor, and as a result, he was in charge of my ance assessment. The third thing I did was follow the chain of command. I went to our boss, our detachment commander, our leader, and asked him to please tell them to stop calling me these names. He said, "Well, maybe you enjoy the attention." To make matters more complicated, my partner with 15 years of service arrived at work drunk. Before I could drive him home, he crashed his car into a...